{Cardigan: Bloom | Dress: Anthro | B Necklace: c/o Albeit | Shoes: Similar}
For some reason, perfection has been in my way lately. (As a recovering perfectionist, this happens all the time.) This terrible voice haunts me with it’s four little words: it could be better. It doesn’t matter what it is, it could just be better. An outfit, the store, or even dinner for heaven’s sake! Like a mean girl in high school, this voice knows no limits. So I’ve realized this voice needs to be shut down — I mean whatever happened to just being happy with who you are and what you got?
Sure, it could always be better. I could always be taller, thinner, prettier, happier, richer, have a reality show and a Mercedes (small dreams here) and so on and so on. But then I wouldn’t be me; I’d be someone else. I’m not saying it’s not ok to have goals or dreams of improvements for you or your life. I just don’t think that it’s worth dwelling on what you are not; you should just be what you are right now.
And that, my friends, was my random stream of consciousness for the day. So get on with your bad self because it’s not getting any better. I kid — it’s best that it is right now and that is actually perfect.
171 Responses
LOVE!
You may think that things can always get better, but I think that truly nothing could be better at this moment is this post as a reminder of what I need to think about and then your adorable outfit!
adoredlife.blogspot.com
I love your post! Always to perfectly inspiring! I also really like these photos. That dress is gorgeous and I really like those necklaces!
Carlee
Almost Endearing
love love that bun!!
xxS
Loved reading this today. Thanks for sharing Kendi!
http://switchedonstyle.blogspot.com/
LOVE THIS POST! Â I've definitely been getting down on myself if my goals aren't exactly where I expected them to be at this point.. Good timing!
Oh, and I love your outfit! 🙂
Such gorgeous photography! The print on your dress is amazing!
http://www.styleisalwaysfashionable.blogspot.com
Such a pretty and girly outfit! Love the bun and dress 🙂
http://lartoffashion.blogspot.com
Gosh your posts sure hit home…it's like you're in my head, picking away at my thoughts, the thoughts I have such a hard time getting out!
You're truly amazing
skyhighdech.blogspot.com
Cute outfit!! Love the cats on the dress. 🙂
xo – Sheilawww.sheislovelyblog.com
Funny enough, I was going to note that your bun is PERFECT today 🙂
You're pretty perfect the way you are! I love this dress!
Joyce@
Sip-n-wear@gmail.com
Suggest you write an auto biography someday. It would be fun!
Your totally right…there is nothing wrong with constantly striving for better but you gotta take time to appreciate the jouney to get there.
Annnnd I think this silhouette is great on you! Love this look! 🙂Â
That dress is really darling. Â I love your layered necklaces as well.
http://shannonhearts.blogspot.com/
you look purrrrfect! (okay, I totally had to!) Adore your dress, shoes, hair, everything! As always!Â
xo
Meaghann
http://www.sealed-with-style.com
Love this dress! So cute!
I'm also a recovered perfectionist – sucks, doesn't it!? Â On the bright side, you look incredibly adorable here – love the bun and the fit & flare shape to this dress…so cute!
http://www.pennypincherfashion.com
This post is perfection! Love your dress!~Sara
sarastrauss.blogspot.com
beautiful kendi! 🙂
happyleeliving.blogspot.com
Love this outfit and this post! I sadly have to remind myself of that far too often.Â
Ahhh I LOVE that dress! You look great in it! So cute!
Thanks for the free therapy.  I kinda needed that today.  And now I see I need the kitty cat dress I have been obsessing over too.  😉
so true.
awww what a cute dress!
You're the second person I see this dress on, ah it's perfect! I do have to say, the way you styled this outfit is purrfect! 🙂 *bun and dainty jewelery*
You. Look. GORGEOUS! I totally know the feeling… It's so hard to shut that mean girl voice up, isn't it? It'll just take a lot of work to shut her down. You'll get there!
xo Heather http://ahopelessnotebook.blogspot.com/
This may be one of my favorite shoots of you. Love the outfit and the look!
xoxo Jessica
http://www.mystylevita.com
adorable dress
http://urbanprettygirl.blogspot.com/
I am not so much a cat fan but I adore this dress (and entire look for that matter)
Chelsea
http://www.hautechildinthecity.com
Love this post and this dress! And I will say, this outfit is pretty perfect!
Style in the City
You are seriously adorable in this dress, I just can't get enough of this print! And you are so right…the grass is always greener right? But being happy with what you have and who you are is key! 🙂
xo, Yi-chia
Always Maylee
AHHH!! I was just about to buy this dress last weekend (it was on sale at Anthro) but they were out of my size. You wear it so well and I love the way you paired it with the cardigan.Â
I will have to live all my cat dress dreams vicariously through you!
i think you mean puuuuurrrrrfect. 🙂 i love every last thing about this outfit and you! xo
 I love your shoes.
I really love this! Thanks for posting…. And that dress is marvelous!
Kendi, you have no idea how much I needed to hear (or I guess read) this! You gave me that boost I needed to feel confident about who I am right now. Thank you! And that dress, omg I NEED it in my life.
Your sock bun is perfect, I'd say that's a small win for the day 🙂
Looks so lovely!Â
I especially like the photo with the bun! ♥Â
fashion is for idiots [like us]
fashion is for idiots [like us]
How do you get your hair so perfect? Do you use a sock… or are you just naturally skilled in throwing up perfect buns?
Best Dress
Best Shoes
Best Bun
cute dress.. and loving the bun! perfectly styled 🙂 hehe
If by "perfection has been in my way" you mean "perfection is on my body in the shape of a cat dress" then yeah. Nailed it. 🙂
well…you seemed to have perfected this outfit quite easily! 🙂Â
but for real, i know what you mean. i think mostly everyone has that little voice so you're not alone.Â
hannah
So cute Kendi!
xo Jennifer
http://seekingstyleblog.wordpress.com
Oh I know how you feel! I wouldn't even say I am a recovering perfectionist since I have lapses daily. Â I constantly stress about umm everything… I am in a struggle all the time to let go and not worry so much. Â
Love your outfit! Â It is so adorable and those shoes just make it!Â
CUTE dress!
🙂 Your random stream of consciousness was what I needed today. Have fun enjoying perfection as I try to shut up the mean girl in my head, too.Â
Love this.
I love the fuchsia heels with a light colored outfit! I wore something similar to an art event last week and it was a big hit!Â
LaurenÂ
astyledefined.comÂ
This outfit is what's perfect!
Love everything about this outfit! You look so beautiful!
http://bellasstyle.blogspot.co.uk/
love the dress!
xthesimplethingsx.blogspot.com
i love this outfit! it's wonderful, and perfect to me!
x's & o's
AnacristinaÂ
laughsandicecream.blogspot.comÂ
The dress is really pretty
xo, Petra
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Stunning outfit and hairstyle! You are beautiful!
From http://www.xeanafashion.com Â
Totally agree with this message! My days are always more pleasant when I dwell on who I am, not who I could be.Â
what's so interesting on the floor?? just kidding. my husband always makes fun of me when i look off to the side in my photos. he doesn't get it. anyway…love this. the black + white and the pop of pink…thumbs up, sista.Â
I love that you put purple shoes with your outfit! And the self-love post was much needed.
xo Ashley
luckylittlebird.blogspot.com
Lovely dress. That bun is perfection! You should do a tutorial for it 🙂
love the dress! very pretty!
http://lavieenliz.com
Nice perspective on life. Think the same way sometimes, but always got to admit that life is good. Love the dress, bun, and pop of color with the heels!
http://whattowearwithpandy.blogspot.com/
this truly is perfect! Can I have your legs please!? 🙂
Well said!
And with THAT being said, I think your bun looks pretty dang perfect 🙂
I've had my eye on that dress for awhile now. Love the kitties! Not sure if I'll take the leap and buy it but it looks cute on you!
I love that dress- wish it wasn't so expensive!
Life Unsweetened
I LOVE this! So feminine with a wonderful pop of purple. Exquisite!
this dress is cute beyond words!
phiphisblog.com
Cutest dress ever. Love these in studio photos.
Method Clothe
I'm a perfectionist too and sometimes I really struggle with being to hard on myself and others. But you're right it is for the most part a waste of time!
But in other news, this outfit is amazing and lovely!
xoxox
Megan
http://www.arayofsunblog.com
Super cute dress! LOVE your shoes too!
http://www.natinlove.com?cm=1
You totally nailed it with this outfit. That dress is adorable, and the sweater goes so well! Dare I say, you've achieved perfection here at least 🙂
<3 Josephine
http://www.champagnestar.com
You are so cute! I'm jealous of your buns! Â Sock buns that is… I tried but have too much hair for it to work.Â
dress + bun combo = style perfection
Ahh! Perfection! Thank you for the beautiful reminder!
I love your words of wisdom, Kendi. I also love that dress with the cats on it paired with those bright shoes. YOU are GORGEOUS and so is your sock bun that I will never be able to do 🙂 xo, Amy itwasloveat.blogspot.com
Perfection is overrated! Great dress, it's so flattering on you!
http://www.thepursesnatcher.net
All your mumbo jumbo about not being perfect is great and all, but in these pictures you look pretty damn close to perfect. But maybe you secretly have a wedgie…I don't know. Point is…you look fantastic 🙂
Sarah's Real Life
Thanks for calling out our inner nags. It feels good to call it what it is, and let life take you. Lately, when I am buried in my could haves, should haves and do it betters, I just tell myself to let it be and strive to be more present, focused and creative tomorrow. It is all about growth right?
This outfit is perfection! Thanks for always being so candidate!Â
xoxox
http://www.soyouagree.com
Is that an effing CAT on your dress?! Â I'm dying. Â Completely in love.
Kendi, you are absolutely wonderful exactly the way you are! You are a beautiful person with a unique voice that touches so many. I'm glad you're working on shutting down your 'mean girl' voice. Sometimes we all need a reminder not to let it spoil the positives!
http://www.thismomsgonnasnap.com
And this is officially my new favorite outfit on you. I want to steal it, although I need my dress just a little longer – I feel like a hooker anytime I wear something above the knee. Ironic because I was the girl in high school who was sent the the principal ALL THE TIME for wearing shorts that were too short. I hit 30 and became a nun… unless I have a spray tan and then I go back to hooker-length things to show off my tan legs.
So instead, maybe I just need that same outfit AND a spray tan…
http://www.texaslovely.com
ps–You look lovely!
Your post is so inspiring! It's always a good reminder(: You are gorgeous!
xoxo, Gena
Pearls,
Curls, and Uptown Girls
You may not be perfect, but this outfit is petty close to it! I love that dress so much – it looks like it was made for you.Â
Thanks for reminding me that where I'm at right now is good because I'm just being me. 🙂Â
xoxo,Â
Laura
http://lauraisthriftingthroughlife.blogspot.com/
I'm so obsessed with this Anthro dress. I need I need I NEED it! xoxo
Seriously, you are perfect!! LOVE this outfit!
my goodness girl- me too. i am never "quite" good enough. but your outfit is fan-freaking tastic!
girl, you look so tall, thin, pretty, and happy as is! work it.
Amen to that!
I was sure there was going to be a perfect/purrfect pun in here somewhere based on the print of the dress…cute!
so true! women are so hard on themselves. i've always been on a quest to better myself. sometimes it makes me feel driven. other times i feel like i just stress myself out too much!
I love this outfit! I just bought this dress a couple of weeks ago!
I love this dress, it's so cute and not to mention perfect for a crazy cat lady like myself! I'm also swooning over your cardigan!Â
-Jess
http://jessicas-wonderland.blogspot.com/
That bun looks pretty perfect to me xxx
I scored this same cute dress from Anthro 2 weeks ago. I love it! I've now seen it on 1,2,3,4 different bloggers! LOL I think that means it's a hit. It looks fab on you too. I like the bright shoes and the bun.Â
As an artist I've been told, and agree with the simple fact that a piece is never actually "finished", which could be interpreted as constantly seeking perfection and never attaining it. Being a perfectionist has a way of ruining the moment you're living in because you will simply never be satisfied.
Constant desire for perfection can promote growth and improvement, but it can also rob you of joy and fulfillment.
Bisous
Suzanne
http://bisous.typepad.com/bisous/
Hey I feel so much the same way…always feeling like I need some help in the perfection department…but I kinda think you look amazing in these pics…so I wouldn't worry yourself 😉
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You don't even need to try! Such a natural beauty Kendi. I love this cardigan too. Must go check out what's in store at Bloom. <3
http://ichigopaws.blogspot.com
Preach it, sister.
http://stylishsass.blogspot.com
Loveeee it!
http://www.studentswife.com
Beautiful outfit!
Ginny
mynewfavoriteoutfit.blogspot.com
I dont think this outfit could get any better?
I love this look – really don't think it can get much better!
Kate xo petite-adventures.blogspot.com
I have seen this dress a lot around the web lately. I love the pattern and how you styled it.
Lovely random stream of consciousness and we should all do that more often if that is the message being sent! One of the (few ;o) benefits of getting older is that you learn to accept and appreciate who you are, there is less pressure to be who you think everyone else wants you to be. Still moments of regression but less and less so :o).Â
I have been traveling/moving countries for the last month or so and have missed a few weeks of your posts. I must say that in this time your outfits have really changed! Maybe a reflection on trying to dress more for yourself and less for how you think your audience wants you to dress??? Anyway, I really like the change whether it has been conscious or not.
adorable look!love it!
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The dress is so pretty! I love how you kept the color palette the same with the cardigan but then punched it up with the vibrant shoes. So cool!
-Erin-
OneTwoSummer
I love this outfit!
That dress is oh-so-cute! Love the entire outfit.Â
love these indoor photos, that dress is sooo cute! and i totally agree with what you just said 🙂
http://www.counttofour.com
love it and the perfect bun!Â
That's so cute. Â I wish my hair could get that way. Â Love the outfit! Â
Vivianhttp://js-go.blogspot.com
I think this is one of my favorite outfits of your EVER…
Love the write-up and the outfit! You look like you could be in the Anthro catalog. No joke! Super cute 🙂
Kristin
http://www.dressedandfed.com
Kendi!!!!
i normally don't comment much on blogs i follow but yours is the only one I've ever commented on! anyway… i just wanted to say this outfit is MOST CERTAINLY my favorite from your posts EVER! you just look so beautiful, simple, and carefree!Â
also your post itself made me feel better about my day as well! but can't say i'm surprised your posts always bring a smile to my face! 🙂
good luck and god bless!Â
love this dress!!!!
love the outfit and these pictures. so pretty. 🙂
Can I just say that your top knot is PERFECTION in this post? How amazing! Let me know if you figure out the reality show and Mercedes thing, ok? 🙂Â
Morgan
seemomogo.blogspot.com
What a cute whimsical dress! Love the pop of color with your heels!
Alice
http://www.happinessatmidlife.com
love this outfit kendi! really cute!
xo julesinflats.ccom
I really this whole look, Kendi!
Abi
http://thebelatedbloomer.blogspot.com
This has to be one of my favourite outfits that I have seen you wear. I really love everything about it and really want to buy everything.
Cat dress! You look gorgeous in it! I need one! I've wanted one since I saw one in nylon magazine a while back!
Theresa
http://bomamma.blogspot.com
guhh that dress is serious perfection.
Haha you know what's funny? When I saw the title 'Perfection', I honestly agreed as I was looking at your photos that they were perfection. That outfit, your hair, the room you're standing in. Give yourself a break, gorgeous.
Cute look 🙂
Love the initial necklace. I just did a post about initial earrings.
xoxo
CoriÂ
http://www.purecanesugarfashion.wordpress.com
It is really a perfect combination! love the color of the shoes!
Great advice! 🙂 Love the bright shoes with the black and white outfit too – that cat print is so cute! 🙂
AwayFromTheBlue.blogspot.com.au
Thank you for putting things into perspective. Once in awhile we all need a slap in the face, to wake us up back into reality. By the way I am in love with this entire outfit.Â
Great dress. Love the shoes too <3
xo
That dress is adorable…love how you paired it with the bright shoe. And thanks for the great advice :o)
xoxo
Cathy, your Poor LIttle It Girl
http://poorlittleitgirl.com
Great post & Great outfit! You really know how to make your point Kendi. Best regards from Albania!
What a lovely outfit!
One of my favorites!
Greetings from the Midwest,
Lotte
Well I think you can tell your voice in your head that you are perfect! Because based on this outfit, you are! I love the feminine feel!
this is the best outfit I've seen on your blog!
This is so sweet! Overly girly can never be done enough!
sks
i've got the same dress and love seeing it on you. love all the neutrals you styled it with – it looks great. i dunno – having a reality show and a mercedes doesn't sound too great to me. i'm a fan of my cheap model fiat and stress free camera free life 😀
<3 katherine
of corgis and cocktails
what a pretty dress and love your bun! xo
http://allthingsprettyandlittle.blogspot.com/
Sweet words Kendi. And so true. Recovering perfectionist here also, and you're words could not have been more timely. Thank you!
Perfect. I simply adore your today's look. You look gorgeous, feminine, cute, and chic. Everything in one.Â
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Amen, sister. I battle with that headspace too. Must be a late-20s-modern-woman thing! But I must say, you and this outfit are pretty darn near perfection to me.
Great post. Anthropologie has such unique prints.Â
When that mean girl perfectionist taunts me, I sing her country lyrics … "I'm what I am, and I'm what I'm not not, but I'm sure happy with what I got." Or, I just watch 10 minutes of Jerry Springer. That always makes me feel that in comparison I'm nailing life.Â
http://loislanelifestyle.blogspot.com/
I couldn't agree with you more!  I began to have perfectionist tendencies after my son was born as a result of my postpartum depression.  I learned that the voice in my head is exactly like a mean girl!  It is not kind to do that to yourself.  I had to learn this as well 🙂  The mantra that helps me when I begin to worry or stress that I am not doing something "good enough" I say, "It's OK, I am not perfect."  That saying brings me peace! I absolutely adore you and your blog!
Yup. I raise my hand to that! Our own worst enemy is comparison and so cheers to all the everybodies just being themselves.
-Heather
{heatheringheights.com}
very simple and classic.. love it
Love your post! I'm a recovering perfectionist as well–or trying to get there! lol
Love love love that dress! And your pumps are adorable!
xx
Giovanna
http://www.oliveandanarrow.com
That dress is adorable! What a great look! Also, what a perfect top knot!Â
I think our bun is perfect! and those shoes were the perfect choice for this outfit!Â
work-it-blog.blogspot.com
Love the outfit, love the reminder to quiet the mean voice inside. 😀
This is the cutest dress!!
love love this outfit!!!!!
This is such a cute dress and I love, love, love it paired with those adorable shoes. You are so stylish that it hurts =P
<3Honeysuckelle
Yes, you should have a reality show 🙂Â
I usually just lurk among your many fans, but wow, these photos and this outfit are perfection. And we love you just the way you are.
Actually stop being so adorable though, I just can't handle you!
http://perpetuallycaroline.blogspot.com
OBSESSED with the shoes!!Â
Love the combination of the dress with the shoes!Â
Xx
http://kendra-genevieve-rose.blogspot.com
This outfit is so chic. Loving the pink shoes!
http://rubiesemeralds.blogspot.com/
I think you look so gorgeous here, Kendi! And your writing about perfection is so very very me all the time, it was just weird to read that today, when my own inner voice has been especially loud and critical lately. So thanks for that and the cute outfit! It was perfect ^_-
Love this look but even better your words!
Monica from Fashion Koketi
Cute outfit! How do you do your bun?Â
I'll tell you what's perfect- that cat dress! LOVE it.Â
-Becky
Cutest kitty dress ever! Love it!
I am so jealous of that dress. I have been yearning for it since it first landed on an anthro mannequin. Sadly my bust line doesn't quite work to fill it out so it cannot be :/ #flatgirlproblems
absolutely love this! Â The bun is perfect.
sarahladygolightlyvintage.blogspot.com
I think a lot of people struggle with that negative voice; but being perfect just isn't as fun as being yourself. By the way I love the pop of color of the shoes with the more neutral outfit! 🙂
-Mary @ stylethatmoves.blogspot.com
This is such a sweet outfit. I love it.
My name is Typhanie Stewart, and I am also a perfectionist. Thanks for this awesome reminder.
Typhanie
http://www.mygarmentsofpraise.com
I just found your blog and I love you!! Your humor and sass and all your FAB shoes! Newest follower!
Your outfit is soooo cute!
The outfit is perfect and so is your post! <3 Thank you!